28.0 Why the Microwave Mentality of Grief is Harmful! How to Resist Secondhand Stress.


We are given 3-7 days of bereavement leave and, in the US, it is not required to be paid leave.  And, after the first month, most of the extra help and support is dwindling because people get back to their lives with the expectations that you are as well. The problem is that you don’t have your life to get back to.

In this episode, I’ll share how to resist the secondhand stress of society and harder still, the first-hand stress you put on yourself to be better quickly.  Learn how this microwave mentality of grief is harmful to you and how to give yourself the same grace (in this case, grief grace) that you would effortlessly give to others.


Verse(Paul speaking) So here’s what I want you to do: Take your everyday, ordinary life—your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life—and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for him. Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you. Romans 12:1-2 (msg)

Song.   I Surrender by Hillsong.  


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